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From time to time, we bring real issues in here to a group of real men

Jan 23, 2025, 10:33 AM

I feel like a terrible father sometimes. Mainly with my son.

Daughter of is very independent and very anti-social. She hasn't been diagnosed with aspergers, but it wouldn't surprise me.

She's going to be in that weird group we all had in high school. You know the group.

Son of is complete opposite. Extremely social, hasn't been diagnosed with ADD but holy hell I know for a fact he has it.

Has to be doing something all the time and has to involve someone in his activities.

With my job, that means I'm normally the one he wants to involve.

And it irks my spirit to no end.

I can't take hearing the word "Dad" 17 times in 45 seconds (yes I counted. No I'm not exaggerating)

I've always hated kids who demand attention. Those that interrupt conversations with adults, constantly talking, constantly needing something.

I now have that for a son.

Which of course makes my patience virtually 0 with him and I feel awful about it. I know it's just his personality. All of his teachers and people in the building love him because he's so funny and active and he is. But when you deal with that all.the.fucking.time it becomes grating.

Anybody else deal with a child like this? Just me?

Go ahead and tell me how awful of a parent I am. Because that's how I feel most days with this kid.

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We had one that was diagnosed ADHD (here in NC). I was dead set against medicating simply because of my lack of patience. But it was effecting her school work. We went through several drugs and dosages before we found the correct combo for her. Also had counselors that worked with her. she is now a junior in college.

Here's the pro of the diagnosis:

This diagnosis follows her throughout her entire academic career. If she has trouble in any way, taking tests, reading assignments, etc. the school (and/or university) MUST accommodate her.

The con of all this:

We had to go through several drugs over time that was very frustrating. And different dosages which was even more frustrating. It's like they don't really know what to do and we're just throwing darts here.

The other was the extreme weight loss. While on the "patch" she looked anorexic. When I asked a pharmacist friend she said, "oh yeah. This is the drug of choice with soccer moms." Seems they were getting their kids diagnosed so they could use the patches to get slim.

If you decide on a clinical "solution", ask questions, do your own research. Look into diet. There are certain foods and additives that effect ADHD.

From time to time, we bring real issues in here to a group of real men

Real answer. Not to be flippant.

Yeah I know I have it good. I have two happy, healthy children

That's the hard part. Fighting yourself.

Same message, in a country song.

Gross***

It won't last long, trust me

This has been going on for about 4 years. From 4 to 8

You are alright. Boy is alright. You will miss his energy & enthusiasm

Don't box the kid in

I kind of assumed we ARE the weirdos.***

Right? I am an engineer.***

I can say my keyboard abcs in 2.8s

#### I just realized I'm the cool kid that ended up in the group that wears

Re: #### I just realized I'm the cool kid that ended up in the group that wears

Man, I love this song

NO we ARE the people our parents warned us about!***

I agree with this. Wife of asked if we needed to take him to the doctor

My oldest two have asked to talk to the doctor about medication. NC has a

I went to the doctor with me for ADD and apparently there's a test they give you

That is 100% the opposite of what actual doctors would say.***

Re: I agree with this. Wife of asked if we needed to take him to the doctor

Not having the experience yet but I envision it will fade whenever he

Re: From time to time, we bring real issues in here to a group of real men

One day, you'll miss this ... 20 years from now, he'll be married

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Re: From time to time, we bring real issues in here to a group of real men

Step 1 acknowledge him sooner when the

Duh

Just a simple recommendation

sounds cliche butt those were the best days

Amen to that***

Listen to this on repeat until

Lol, I literally had just gone

Two words:

I dunno how you people do it.

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