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CU Guru [1257]
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Some things are better left unsaid. An appeal from a Dad.
Dec 19, 2012, 11:25 AM
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May 16, 2008 will always be a red-letter day for me. That's the day my second daughter was born. Six hours after she was born her doctor told us she had come to us with Down syndrome. In a second - everything had changed.
There's been an HUGE boost in the use of the "R" word (as we call the word ###### in our family) on this board lately. I know it's a football board and we're all on here going back and forth at each other but let's try to use some different words. My daughter is going to hear this word a lot in her life. She can't do anything to change who she is. We can start here to rid the world of the use of this word.
Now...go ahead some of you. Flame me. Call me oversensitive. Say I'm over reacting. Say "Lighten up Francis". Call me whatever. That's fine. I'm just a Daddy making a plea to help end something that his baby girl may have to deal with for a long time.
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Oculus Spirit [83625]
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agreed...
Dec 19, 2012, 11:28 AM
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try not to use it.
I apologize for my part
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Scout Team [184]
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Re: Some things are better left unsaid. An appeal from a Dad.
Dec 19, 2012, 11:32 AM
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I am with you brother. My son was born December 28, 2011, with Downs. I might not have been the most sensitive person prior to that date but I am now. I really changes your thinking on some issues.
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Asst Coach [715]
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Re: Well said.
Dec 19, 2012, 11:35 AM
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Orange Blooded [2802]
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I agree with you. Just want you to know that when I see a
Dec 19, 2012, 11:40 AM
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child with Downs, I see a special needs child, one who brings joy into the lives of those who love them. Maybe we should leave off the needs part and just call them special! Merry Christmas to you and your family!
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CU Medallion [51541]
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Re: I agree with you. Just want you to know that when I see a
Dec 19, 2012, 11:43 AM
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Many people already do use that one word.(Special , that is).
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All-TigerNet [12550]
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Well said!****
Dec 19, 2012, 11:52 AM
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Orange Blooded [3881]
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I agree with you Francis (lol), we all should avoud using
Dec 19, 2012, 11:52 AM
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words, terms or phrases that can bring pain to others, find another word or way to get your point across.
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Head Coach [790]
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Many of us use words that hurt.... Thanks for the post***
Dec 19, 2012, 12:00 PM
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1st Rounder [609]
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I'll do my part.
Dec 19, 2012, 12:02 PM
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I hope you and your family have a Merry Christmas.
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110%er [6057]
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Very well said. And as I am sure you know the website is out
Dec 19, 2012, 12:02 PM
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there to make a stand.
http://www.r-word.org/
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Hall of Famer [23076]
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I remember you posted a while back about teaching her
Dec 19, 2012, 12:04 PM
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to do the Clemson cheer. That was awesome. Yall sound like great parents to a really special girl.
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Rock Defender [54]
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Re: Some things are better left unsaid. An appeal from a Dad.
Dec 19, 2012, 12:04 PM
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Agreed. I've been guilty of using the word before on here, and going forward, I'll be more sensitive and conscientious about it. The worst part is that I should know better because my mother has dedicated her life to helping people with disabilities.
Thanks for bringing it to our attention.
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Rock Defender [54]
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Couldn't agree more - A request for Crump
Dec 19, 2012, 12:13 PM
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We educated Southern gentlemen should be able to express ourselves without resorting to name calling.
I often think that Tigernet would be a much more enjoyable experience if posters were held to the rules of the forums. Crump, could you please make an effort to start enforcing these rules?
http://www.tigernet.com/rules.do
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Rock Defender [54]
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Re: Couldn't agree more - A request for Crump
Dec 19, 2012, 12:15 PM
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Then no one would be able to call people "Coot" or "an idiot" or "moron" for expressing their opinion....
The McCarthyism and Coot witch hunt would probably have to end. What's the fun in that? 
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Oculus Spirit [81994]
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You serious? He enforces the rules to the best of his
Dec 19, 2012, 12:17 PM
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ability, there's a reason there is a "Report Abuse" button on a post. Crump doesn't have time to read every single post on this board, but he enforces what he sees...
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Rock Defender [54]
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Of course I'm serious
Dec 19, 2012, 12:27 PM
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The vast majority of posts on this board break the rules. And I've used the "report abuse" many times with no effect.
It would probably be too much to ask for all posters to follow the rules they agreed to when signing up. Nobody would listen because there are no consequences for their behavior.
I'm not trying to get on a high horse here. I'd just like some of the civility and intelligence returned to this forum.
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Oculus Spirit [81994]
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When you press the RA button, it doesn't magically
Dec 19, 2012, 12:31 PM
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disappear right away. There is an RA log that our site admins look through and usually delete the post when they get to it. If a post garners 5 individual RAs, it is deleted immediately...maybe you're overly sensitive.
I've also never seen you participate in the Donors Board, it is much more civil in there...
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Well said and may God bless your family.......Merry Christma
Dec 19, 2012, 12:33 PM
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and Go Clemson Tigers!
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Letterman [280]
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I agree. I detest that word when used as an insult.***
Dec 19, 2012, 3:00 PM
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Orange Blooded [3820]
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You are what you write....you are class, they are "R's"...***
Dec 19, 2012, 5:51 PM
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All-In [25412]
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I greatly sympathize with you and commend you for your
Dec 19, 2012, 7:02 PM
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care and concern...and agree about the use of certain "names." My youngest granddaughter suffers from a mild form of autism, and I would be highly offended at any insensitive remark. My best wishes to you and your family.
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Orange Blooded [2533]
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I say "God bless you" as you raise your very special daughte
Dec 19, 2012, 7:35 PM
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and thanks for reminding us to watch our words.
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Legend [18069]
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As the husband of a Special Needs educator, as well as just
Dec 19, 2012, 8:13 PM
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being an overall good dude...I loudly second this post! Well said sir. We CAN stop the use of this word.
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Re: Some things are better left unsaid. An appeal from a Dad.
Dec 19, 2012, 8:14 PM
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Absolutely agree. I have a couple of friends with daughters that have Down Syndrome. My own son is borderline autistic (he is suffering from severe social issues).
My wife is a Special Ed. teacher and we don't allow that word in our house. Even in a setting such as this, there is really no place for it.
Thanks for the post!
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CU Medallion [51559]
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The r word means slow.
Dec 19, 2012, 8:17 PM
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Why can't I use it?
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Orange Blooded [4367]
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I'm offended when people use the word "coot"
Dec 19, 2012, 8:19 PM
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Some of my cousins have that disability.
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CU Medallion [51559]
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Re: The r word means slow.
Dec 19, 2012, 8:20 PM
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wikipedia.org/wiki/Unguided_bomb
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Orange Blooded [4367]
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The government uses r-word bombs?
Dec 19, 2012, 8:22 PM
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Orange Blooded [4367]
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and I hope this board has similar feelings about using the
Dec 19, 2012, 8:26 PM
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"g-word" calling people cigarrettes(f-word), because I'm sure those words are just as hurtful.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alan_Turing
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Orange Blooded [4367]
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and I hope whoever TDd this didnt have any family who served
Dec 19, 2012, 8:51 PM
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In WWII, because he shortened it by Two years by cracking the Nazi code
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Starter [379]
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sometimes you forget how blessed you are to have a
Dec 19, 2012, 9:06 PM
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healthy child/children
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Orange Blooded [4903]
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No flames - awesome post!
Dec 19, 2012, 11:27 PM
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Stand up for your daughters, no matter their disability or lack thereof.
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