Re: Clemson football related relationship question

This is a question for the tiger fans who are married or in a long-term relationship with a non-football fan lady. I've been single most of my adult life, my marriage had 1000 problems, but I won't get into that. My love for Clemson football has caused issues in more than one past relationship. I'm currently dating a very awesome woman, who is from the north and has zero interest in college football. I actually would like to go to the games this fall. How do you balance this and enjoy your football too? I've taken non-football fan girlfriends to games in the past and it's not gone well. And others who do not do appreciate being left alone all day on beautiful fall Saturdays. My friends all seem to have married women who either love football, or really don't give a crap what they do. I've not been so fortunate. My dad tells me that I "pick the wrong women", but you meet who you meet. I'm not willing to risk another relationship for Clemson football, so any suggestions on how to make it a win-win would be appreciated

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Jul 16, 2023, 6:24 PM

Cdixon11 ,

First of all, I tend to agree with your Dad. You pick these women. You love Clemson Football. None of the women you meet even like college football, let alone Clemson football. I don't know your situation (what part of the country you're in, what occupations you've had or interface with, where you meet eligible women, etc.) But I've been all over the country and never had a problem meeting women who were interested in me or college football. I've met women in all kinds of occupational situations, as well as met women in all kinds of places (bars, on the job, on vacation, parties and dinners, conferences, at the zoo, at amusement parks, through friends & relatives, at bus & train stations or at airports, etc--Never had a major problem meeting women interested in me or college football.

OK, second. You're not me, so let's assume you never meet a woman who loves college football --I find that hard to believe, but I'll try to accept that your situation is as you stated. OK, you apparently have no problem meeting "awesome" women. These "awesome" women can't understand your love of Clemson football? If they can't understand your love/interest in attending or watching Clemson football 12-15 weekends a year (out of 52), they don't sound so awesome to me! On the other hand, I am assuming some of these "awesome" women also have interests that you aren't exactly wild about--and that you accept their time attending to these interests that you don't necessarily care about, but you have no problem with their attention to them. If you can't find women who are willing to compromise with you about Clemson football (just as you are willing to compromise with them about their varied interests), I truly sympathize with you. However, I can't believe you can't find women who won't compromise with you, as long as you are willing to compromise with them.

OK, 3rd. You can't find a woman that loves college football. Furthermore, you can't find an "awesome" woman who is willing to compromise with you (but you are willing to compromise with her). As far as I'm concerned, if you can't find a woman who loves college football or is
willing to compromise with you, there is no "win-win" situation for you. You've already said "...you're not willing to risk another relationship for Clemson football...", therefore, you've answered yourself--i.e., give up your love/interest in Clemson football, or accept whatever crumbs your "awesome" woman is willing to give you regarding Clemson football!

Before posting my answer, I went back and looked at some of the answers other people were giving you. Most of them gave you variations of what I've posted above. You even provided a post about the advice we all were giving you. Basically you said you understand what we're saying, but that people in "your" world have very different situations than "yours"

Well, all I can say is that I'm not very impressed with "your" people. Not willing to compromise. Not willing to give, be supportive, or be considerate of your needs and desires. In my opinion, it sounds like you need to give up your current relationship and the current people you are dealing with--the sooner the better. If not, be satisfied with what you've chosen.

I'm not very optimistic about your decision, but "Good Luck"!

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