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All-In [34487]
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Alright boys. Need serious advice.
Sep 22, 2021, 9:59 AM
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I'm finna get back out there and take a stab at being miserable again.
I'm talking about pursuing a STEADY thing with a GIRL. Not going slumming in a drunken stupor or fornicating with that which my mom would be ashamed. But, like, someone who I can take to weddings and introduce to friends n ####.
Only problem I'm seeing is that there's a 90% chance I'm gonna have to contend with someone else's fucktrophies unless I go WAY younger.
Two things:
1) how to navigate other fucktrophies and is it werth it?
2) if not, lungers who have wives that you met when they were 10 years younger than you. What type of dowry should I be expecting?
Chances are, the only person who can deal with me is someone who has equal psychological trauma, but I'd like to get outta this with a legacy, my sanity and my money, Is unpossible?
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Re: Alright boys. Need serious advice.
Sep 22, 2021, 10:02 AM
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If you get married, you won't be doing any of that stuff in your last paragraph. And really, if you don't plan on having kids, I'm not sure why you would get married.
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non-married people have kids probably***
Sep 22, 2021, 10:13 AM
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I just want kids someday. I can't be the last of my kind.
Sep 22, 2021, 10:15 AM
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I thought about freezing my swimmers and just waiting until I'm in my 40s or something.
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I don't get wanting to deal with all that, but that's y'alls
Sep 22, 2021, 10:21 AM
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thing, not mine.
But one good thing is if for some reason you knock her up and later can't stand being in the same room with her, you've already lived in a tent, so you know what it will be like.
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Re: I don't get wanting to deal with all that, but that's y'alls
Sep 22, 2021, 10:23 AM
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Serious Answer for number 1
Sep 22, 2021, 10:03 AM
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When I first started dating my wife (who had the divorce become official like 2 weeks later), her ex husband tried to make comments through the community.
I had recently saw the saying I used. Loved it so I used it.
"How's the used #####"
"After the first 3 inches it's like it's brand new"
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On brand***
Sep 22, 2021, 11:13 AM
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I'd like to a make a suggestion, if you'll allow me.
Sep 22, 2021, 10:08 AM
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Option 3: try one of those ladybois. They can't have kids so you won't have to deal with that. AND sucking #### is not gay if she has tids.
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Aren’t you someone’s #ucktrophy?
Sep 22, 2021, 10:10 AM
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That's some real country music right there.***
Sep 22, 2021, 10:28 AM
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Go younger. People think you're rich then.
Sep 22, 2021, 10:13 AM
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Honestly I have no idea. But please introduce to us the one who eventually conquers you. Because you're asking for it, and you will get it. We don't want the one night stands, or one week flings. We want the one you take home to the family, and such.
As for the dowry? All I can suggest is be wary of the parents who absolutely adore you. They're dying to get rid of her. Higher the dowry, the hotter that potato is and the quicker you should drop it. Get a good one with a pittance for a dowry, who's dad gives you the evil eye and whose mom gives you the stink eye.....she's a keeper.
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Nobody is good enough for their princess.
Sep 22, 2021, 10:16 AM
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No matter what a lying, immature piece of trash hoo-er she is.
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Go younger and don't look back.***
Sep 22, 2021, 10:14 AM
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Ultimate Clemson Legend [103330]
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And never let this guy inside your house
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I gots younger experience to share. But first:
Sep 22, 2021, 10:18 AM
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I'm guessing - you don't have kids right now ?
Do YOU - do YOU - WANT kids ? ?
If you answer YES . . . my next question is WHY ? ? ?
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To quell my own ego, really. I have no affection to give, bu
Sep 22, 2021, 10:43 AM
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t feel like world deserves a stubborn_tiger JR
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probably not***
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No affection to give ? Pass on kids all together. 1. Will be
Sep 22, 2021, 10:56 AM
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doing yourself a HUGE favor.
2. Will be doing the kids a HUGE favor . . . .
14 years difference for me. I highly recommend. But you gotta stay away from claiming her bags at the kid luggage carousel. WAY too much drama. And the returns diminish greatly over time. On average, kids grow to dislike their parents for awhile - magnified with step kids. And the seggs (the TRUE ROI) loses a lot of it's sizzle.
And if you take my advice, you gotta find one that doesn't WANT kids, either. Narrows down the field of vision a good bit.
So - YOUNGER - by a lot is OK - and NOOOOO KIDS ! ! ! !
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^ ^ ^ ^ ^ 100000000 grains of TROOF right here***
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Having children is the best thing that happened to me. I
Sep 22, 2021, 12:20 PM
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was 42 when my daughter was born ( ) and 43 when my son was born. I love being a dad. When he was placed in my arms, I felt something electric go through my body. I can't explain it. I can't wait to see and talk with him this afternoon. He's my best friend and the things we do together are amazing.
I didn't want kids at first and now, I can't live with my son!!!
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So you're saying you don't really like your daughter?***
Sep 22, 2021, 12:47 PM
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I love and miss her every day.***
Sep 22, 2021, 1:31 PM
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I've seen friends date chicks with kids. No ####### way I
Sep 22, 2021, 10:23 AM
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would subject myself to that. You can't tell them ####, can't discipline them, even the young ones know you're banging their mom so don't really respect you, but you still have to cater to them and go to activities, etc. Seems like a huge PITA. Young single mothers are usually crazy AF too.
Any chick under 25 you might as well get a blow up doll. Seems like personalities will be similar, but the blow up doll will be cheaper and less stressful.
IMO, seems like you're looking for a late 20's nurse. Psychological baggage, with school and work haven't had time to have a kid, have their own money and decent career but still make highly questionable decisions, etc.
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Re: I've seen friends date chicks with kids. No ####### way I
Sep 22, 2021, 10:32 AM
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Go younger. Just not illegal. *******
Sep 22, 2021, 10:25 AM
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Some of the Mexicans are caliente, though***
Sep 22, 2021, 10:26 AM
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How old and washed up are you?
Sep 22, 2021, 10:25 AM
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Things will change depending on this answer.
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32. In the best shape I've been in since I was 25 and
Sep 22, 2021, 10:41 AM
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getting better. Life on track, making good career moves, healthy mind/body, etc.
I wasted about 10 years, but that's neither here nor there.
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I met my wife when I was 32 and she was 26
Sep 22, 2021, 10:54 AM
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Similar deal as you. When you hit your 30s, you're much more confident than guys in their mid-20s, and your career is usually going better than those guys. So you're more attractive to girls in their mid to late 20s who are looking to get married. There's no reason to lower your standards and settle for somebody divorced or who just already has kids.
I was basically screwing around in my late 20s and either dating women I knew I wasn't going to get married to, or just messing around in a lot of casual relationships for years before I met my now wife. Because I was living in Chicago, I didn't meet a lot of women with children, but the ones I did I definitely put straight into the "fun" category and didn't consider for serious dating. In smaller cities, I noticed it can be tough to find many single women, even in their late 20s, who aren't divorced and/or don't have kids. Hopefully, that's not the case where you are. Anyway, my advice to you is that you go into meeting women knowing what you want from a serious relationship, and either just shutting down the women who can't give you that or not letting things get past the casual stage. Otherwise, you could end up stuck in a situation you didn't really want to get into.
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Solid advice.
Sep 22, 2021, 11:02 AM
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I'm in a smaller city --- so a LOT of what I stumble upon in my age bracket (at least in online dating) is the women with children. I don't want to settle for that, but the older I get the more it seems an inevitable reality at some point. Sounds like I've still got plenty of time, but I do think about it.
I'm actually trying to do some pretty gay stuff to get more F2F time with prospects. I'm looking at taking a yoga class and/or some ballroom dancing lessons. Even thought about splitting my gym membership between a weight room and something like Orange Theory. My personality doesn't come through via text like it does in person. If I dno't have anything else going for me, I've always relied somewhat on charisma.
The online dynamic seems to attract either college Tinder chicks who are babies...or the women with kids, at least in my area. I think there is hope still yet, but that's why I provided that context in OP.
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All sound like good strategies
Sep 22, 2021, 11:23 AM
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Are there intramural sports leagues where you live? Those usually involve drinking, so things can happen.
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sheeeeettttt, I thought you might be a little older and
Sep 22, 2021, 11:12 AM
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you should have no problem meeting someone who is single and child-free. If you get to my age, closer to 40, it might be a problem. Ignore all that other shiit I said below.
Know your worth, King.
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Right? 32 for a guy is just a wee baby.***
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Yeah - ignore all my crap too - 32 is YOUNG. Feel GOOD
Sep 22, 2021, 11:56 AM
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about getting to 32 with no wives or kids . . . .
And then - relax - do things that break things down into manageable groups so they get your charisma.
Yoga / hot yoga ? Good stuff.
Church / young adult (I think you are still called a young adult) groups / Bible studies
Kickball league
Co-Ed softball
Co-ed soccer
It may not feel like it - but you HAVE TIME to really lock down the 1 in a whole, hole bunch that is perfect for you.
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My wife is 12 years younger. No dowry...
Sep 22, 2021, 10:30 AM
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yet.
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All 3 of my wife's college roommates have 0 kids
Sep 22, 2021, 10:30 AM
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and are unmarried. Seems there is a decent supply (at least in my mind).
1, only Tbalm would be interested in.
2&3, both aahhh crap, I'm putting myself at risk here of breaking the rules and I don't wanna break the rules.
Anyway, if I were you I would probably try and find me one at the nail salon, massage parlor, or local chinese restaurant.
Good luck
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Hair stylist is a good call. A lot of them are really
Sep 22, 2021, 10:38 AM
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walking the line of being on the trashy side, but personally I like that. Seneca seems to be a great breeding ground for these type of ladies for whatever reason.
But not the bottom of the barrel Sport Clips types, you need to find one who specializes in hair color or something. You can identify them by their hair usually:
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/\/\ Looks like an exgf, it didn't work out...***
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My old neighbor worked at one of the high end snooty
Sep 22, 2021, 10:51 AM
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hair cuttin' places in Mt P. She was making mid 150's back in like 2003-2004--most of it being cash tips. She's prob making well over 200K now. Works 4 days a week.
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speaking of crazy
Sep 22, 2021, 12:18 PM
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and i'm treading lightly here b/c this may get personal to you stubborn_tiger®, but my research shows that women with small dogs plot consistently more towards the crazy type than the normal type.
my crazy indicators, in order from highest confidence level to lowest:
1 - multiple small dogs
2 - single small dog
3 - two tone hair
4 - writes a fashion / decor blog
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Tattoos and facial piercings have to fit in there somewhere***
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Let's make it happen, McLovin
Sep 22, 2021, 10:47 AM
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Tell your wife you have a "friend" who you won't be buddy book friends with but who you would TOTALLY recommend for a mustache ride.
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Re: Alright boys. Need serious advice.
Sep 22, 2021, 10:31 AM
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Large.Bank.Account.Balances.
Though you'll want to try and avoid them, you want a woman who will at least mention a signed prenuptial agreement.
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meh..not gonna matter in the end.
Sep 22, 2021, 10:36 AM
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real estate, where your biggest wealth growth will be, and if she has kids?
Break out the tent.
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True answers here from someone with no experience like you
Sep 22, 2021, 10:35 AM
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are asking.
1. I cannot imagine what that is like, but I am sure it would be tough, especially if the kids are older. THey will have an established routine/life, and you have to fit into it. But if you find out you REALLY like her and want to stay with her, you make it work. That kid would be priority #1 though and you would have to know that going in. I have a feeling you could get some REALLY GOOD puddin from those ladies though. Something tells me when they have been sitting on the sideline for a while, they are willing to put it out there a little more.
2. There ain't no dowry and I would avoid young ones if possible. In my opinion, there is no way I could carry on a conversation and have a relationship with someone in their mid to late 20's. We would just have very little in common. Great sex might keep it together for a while, but long term would probably be a nogo.
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Worst part about the young ones for me isn't their
Sep 22, 2021, 10:54 AM
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lack of personality. It's their flakiness. Take this one from back in the summer:
Scenario 1: A girl (probably 22?) follows me home from Jake's to "watch netflix". We pull into my relatively nice neighborhood, and she texts me and has to flake because she "left her wallet" at Jake's. Chalk that up to my Ted Bundy vibes.
Scenario 2: Two weeks later. See the same girl at Jake's. I'm like "### happened to your wallet last time?" She says it wasn't a big deal and this time she wants to "go back home and smoke". So we go to her house. We hang out all afternoon and I end up finger banging her while she sucked my D, but she wanted to "Get to know me" more before we effed. So she got my number and texted me a few times, but I was kind of over it since I wasn't able to bang.
There are half a dozen similar stories from my conquests in Columbia.
I think I need to work on the serial killer thing (and being a raging drunk wasn't helping), but the flakiness of younger girls is what gets me. I can deal with the immaturity.
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Put those girls into the "fun" category
Sep 22, 2021, 10:57 AM
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Don't try to date them seriously, unless you're the type (like me... I had the age range set on 18-60 on Tinder and Bumble...) who starts feeling like you're doing something wrong by keeping things casual after a while.
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Friend-of has an older brother who just turned 50. He's
Sep 22, 2021, 10:55 AM
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spent a lifetime searching for younger and younger models. He has a 9yo daughter with ex and has a kid due this fall with new lady.
He's gonna be 68 when kid graduates HS. Ain't no way I'd be down for diapers at 50.
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One of my best pals in RH is 62.
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Has a 7 year old daughter and 36 year old wife. You gotta be tough to survive that. Well, that and the constant ragging from our circle of friends. We're far from being the kindest of folk when it comes to being at the butt of our jokes. Kinda like the Jounge, but far more vicious. In a loving way, of course.
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I was going to ask you how old you are, but I see 32
Sep 22, 2021, 10:56 AM
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which in my 41 year old experience is waaaaaay younger than you think it is.
In general I think you have a wide range of professional women in your age bracket that won't have baggage. You may find that someone who has been married and divorce has a more clear view of what they are looking for in a partner, but in my opinion marrying a woman with kids would be challenging if yo don't have children of your own. Also in my experience, women mature a little earlier than men (in terms of partying, making better choices) so going younger won't make a huge gap.
My husband is 11 years older than me, and also 10000 times nicer than me. I'm still not really sure why he thought I was a suitable wife other than at the time I was 25, had big ##### and a great career. Most of my friends married men our age and had to wait for them to grow up (some of them are still waiting, or on husband #2).
I do have a rich 35 year old I could set you up with, she likes the younger guys.
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pics
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of big ####? thx
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Yeah, tmale!
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Because she had a good head on her shoulders?***
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I cracked up reading Tiggity's advice to beware of the one
Sep 22, 2021, 12:01 PM
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with parents who adore you. My parents like my husband way more than me. He's their favorite child. My mom tells me regularly I need to appreciate him more.
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In my experience...
Sep 22, 2021, 11:25 AM
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it'd be less challenging if I didn't have a kid from a prior marriage. In part because my kid is the one that causes the most problems. Her kids are freaking saints.
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My best friend is in a new blended family (5 kids total) and
Sep 22, 2021, 11:45 AM
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has difficulties with the kids that aren't hers and she is one of the warmest and kindest human beings I know.
I think it's especially challenging being a mom and navigating around having another mom doing 50 percent or so of the decision making and parenting.
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You'd REALLY have to want to be married again to deal with
Sep 22, 2021, 11:59 AM
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that and the very real prospect your kids are going to hate you for pushing them into a new family one day.
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I don't get the folks that get married twice.
Sep 22, 2021, 12:02 PM
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makes zero sense to me. I mean did they still have some more expensive stuff they just wanted to give away?
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My first one didn't cost me anything but time, really***
Sep 22, 2021, 12:07 PM
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hmmm
Sep 22, 2021, 12:09 PM
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no half of everything, including what she didn't earn? (like your retirement, social security etc)?
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Tiger Titan [50265]
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Nope...
Sep 22, 2021, 12:15 PM
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I kept the house and all that stuff.
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You did pretty good.
Sep 22, 2021, 12:16 PM
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For most folks, divorce is a financial sodomy they'll never recover from.
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I agree...
Sep 22, 2021, 12:31 PM
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both of our exes are a pain in the ### and both of them contribute to problems with the step-kids, but her three are various levels of connected to me as a person while my one has nothing to do with anyone but me and the three year old really. We know at least two other couples with similar stories, particularly where the children are male. I think boys have a level of loyalty to their moms that makes it hard to blend. My oldest bonus kid is amazing and we get along really well. But she also has a terrible relationship with her dad so I filled a need. The middle girl is close to her dad so she has the most trouble connecting with me.
But still nothing like my kid.
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I do agree that boys have a stronger bond with their mom
Sep 22, 2021, 12:53 PM
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I'm close with both of my children, but my son is the youngest and particularly affectionate, loving and thoughtful when it comes to me. He does all the sports and playing with my husband, but he unabashedly loves me the most. My daughter is entering the preteen years so lots of eye-rolling and you're the worst mom ever going on with her these days.
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Re: Alright boys. Need serious advice.
Sep 22, 2021, 11:23 AM
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32? man you got twenty more years of PLAYTIME! Don't even think about marriage. Your seed will hold up, you'll be rich enough to hire a nanny, and they just keep making more chicks so don't worry about finding one. The older you get the better than young tang feels.
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Sometimes it just happens...
Sep 22, 2021, 11:31 AM
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Got divorced and got on Tinder a while after. Met a bunch of chicks that wanted to hook up and played around with that briefly but it was fairly soon after I got on there that I met the woman I'm now married to. She had three kids but she is gorgeous, funny, smart and kind. And her kids are pretty awesome too. My kid is the one that is kind of a resentful prick.
We also have a baby together so I'm in that diapers at 50 stage and wouldn't trade it for the world. This three year old is the coolest kid alive.
I wasn't even really planning on ever getting married again.
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Sorry to hear about your divorce, by the way
Sep 22, 2021, 11:55 AM
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Been a while since I've been on here.
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Been married to my second wife for 4 years...
Sep 22, 2021, 11:57 AM
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known her for five. So any story post 2016 is about the good one. Not the old bad one.
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How long were you married the first time?***
Sep 22, 2021, 11:59 AM
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12 years, but had dated for like 15...***
Sep 22, 2021, 12:08 PM
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we're about the same age
Sep 22, 2021, 11:51 AM
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there seems to be a massive, massive gap in social interaction expectations with people, especially chicks, who were in elementary school at the time we were in high school.
it's one of the most baffling things to me. how can a simple 6 - 10 year gap create such a drastic difference? i think the answer is social media, etc. but based on your style you're much more well versed in that area than me.
got a buddy about 29 stuck in a similar situation (greenville). hitting the bumbles and tinders pretty hard. some of the stories he tells me are just ridiculous. this dude played ball in college (ACC), not a Tech grad, from greenville, so I feel like he should be able to connect well.
similar story from my buddy out in NM. granted, he's a complete weirdo (dead head + nuclear engineer), so for his weird stories i usually give the ladies the benefit of the doubt.
best man at my wedding was up in the NE. high profile lawyer, my age. exact same stories.
what i'm trying to say is, the sub 26 crowd seems like a hard no go for me based on these stories.
good luck tho man. i don't envy the position from a long term perspective, but i know you'll have some good stories from the process of trying to figure it out (I do envy that part a little bit haha)
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Seems like the common thread here is bumble and tinder
Sep 22, 2021, 11:54 AM
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given, I haven't been in the dating world since either were invented but that doesn't strike me as a place to find a serious relationship.
They should go get drunk at a bar and meet their spouses the old fashioned way.
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I completely agree with you
Sep 22, 2021, 12:13 PM
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but the market expectations that he's dealing with push meeting people via these applications.
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I got a ton of hookups from Tinder/Bumble
Sep 22, 2021, 1:12 PM
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Even from ones that I would have liked to seriously date but they moved on...the women who are on those apps have a million options as well so you are certainly in a ton of competition and they are certainly playing the field as well. I met my wife on Match.com after getting tired of the grind that those apps often provide.
So yes, completely agree with you that you should only use Tinder/Bumble/Hinge for the "fun zone" and use Match/EHarmony (if that's still a thing?) or mutual friends/other real life encounters for the wife zone
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Don't think you should only use those apps for "fun zone"
Sep 22, 2021, 2:01 PM
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But just be aware of what things disqualify a woman from being a serious candidate for a relationship when you get on there, and don't waste a lot of time and effort with those women.
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Please to be sharing some stories
Sep 22, 2021, 11:57 AM
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Mine were more along the lines of girls into some really weird Gen-Z stuff.
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like pegging?***
Sep 22, 2021, 1:04 PM
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Like graysexuals, cosplay, woke stuff, etc
Sep 22, 2021, 2:04 PM
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But pegging, too, obviously.
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I had to google graysexual. I could see someone who is
Sep 22, 2021, 2:10 PM
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divorced and had to give up half their #### being "Sex-repulsed". Gen Z folks haven't lived long enough to have had that happen to them, have they?
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You gonna dream about rich and skinny until you wind up
Sep 22, 2021, 11:57 AM
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poor and fat...
$1 to Delbert McClinton
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Just follow your heart and brain. Think about everything
Sep 22, 2021, 12:30 PM
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before jumping in. Give it some time and do not feel like you need to hurry because running out of time. Do not look for "red flags", they'll show up.
Thirty-two is still young. I didn't get married until I was 38. We separated when I was 44 and divorced three years later. No children were brought into this marriage on either side. Just make sure she is your friend instead of just a lover and/or trophy. Money is not everything.
Just let things happen and everything else will fall into place. Good luck!!
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He said 'serious' advice.
Sep 22, 2021, 12:33 PM
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And here you are telling stubborn_tiger® to follow his BRAIN of all things?!?!!?
That's cold, dude.
STONE. COLD.
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Re: He said 'serious' advice.
Sep 22, 2021, 1:40 PM
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Want a serious answer?
Sep 22, 2021, 12:48 PM
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You're going to need to get over your personal insecurities and hang-ups above before you're good to anybody, much less hope to have success in your second act.
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I don't have any real psychological
Sep 22, 2021, 1:38 PM
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trauma. That's just part of the schtick.
Everything else is true, though.
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Lol at #1 - grow up Peter Pan
Sep 22, 2021, 1:19 PM
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Most women have a have a sizeable body count, just going to have to go with "don't ask, don't tell" or accept the fact that women have fun in college/post-college just like men do and it's not a big deal.
Obviously this doesn't apply to every woman but in my experience, the younger women in the early/mid 20's are still in party mode and won't want to settle down and their dinner time conversations revolve that as well so don't waste your time if you're looking to get serious.
So if you are 32 like others have said, I would look a little closer to your age
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Re: Lol at #1 - grow up Peter Pan
Sep 22, 2021, 1:39 PM
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Not worried about the body count. It's the some other dude's kids I don't think I'm ready for.
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nobody wants to deal with someone else's failure in a
Sep 22, 2021, 2:13 PM
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relationship. Most folks don't want to deal with their own relationship failures, much less someone else's.
Having kids should really require a license or a test or something other than simply functioning genitalia.
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