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Southern culture
Sep 14, 2022, 1:14 AM
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Like many of you I was raised to say yessir and yesmam and to honor my elders and my betters. In the Braves post game interview tonight Kelly Crull (38 yo) interviewed Dansby Swanson (28 yo) about his performance and home run in the Braves win over the Giants.
At the conclusion of the interview Dansby said “yes ma’m”. I bet she felt a hundred years old! Bless her heart!!
Go Tigers and Braves!
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Sad I now have to apologize for saying ma’am…***
Sep 14, 2022, 1:56 AM
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Oculus Spirit [93787]
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Your saying mam is more about you than anyone else.
Sep 14, 2022, 8:20 AM
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Imo, it's like calling a woman 'lady.' That can never be misconstrued if said in a polite tone. However, calling a woman a witch using a 'B,' rather than 'W,' is more common these days. It says more about the one doing the calling that the one being called that, imo. Total lack of self respect to disgrace a woman whether justified or not for there is no justification for loss of self respect.
Never change who you are to satisfy someone else. It's a lie you don't want to tell.
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Re: Southern culture
Sep 14, 2022, 3:15 AM
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...is under attack by people moving from ###### parts of the country.
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Re: Southern culture
Sep 14, 2022, 9:37 AM
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under attack? That is absolutely hilarious.
Snowflake alert.
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Oculus Spirit [93787]
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No, that's a reflection to back when being a southern...
Sep 14, 2022, 4:48 AM
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gentleman included addressing what we call 'the fairer sex,' as 'Mam.' It was a sign of respect to view each and every woman a lady. To not do so was an accusation that they were not. Even if they, by any standards, didn't deserve that respect. Calling a woman 'Mam,' more defined the gentleman more than it did the lady.
Both elder men and men of position were called 'Sir.' That too defined the gentleman. One showed respect to others as a measure of respect to himself.
I can see that this is lost today. Not only has politeness vanished from our society, so with it went our self respect.
To address an elderly person without showing respect was considered the violation of familiarity. It was considered a sign of disrespect to the elderly as if one held such an equal position of venerableness. It was also a sign of suggesting one 'knew,' a woman in the Biblical manner or a lesser offense of considering himself as familiar with a woman as her brother.
One might point to the bra burnings of the 1960s and assign some credit to women but that would only be an excuse for men of that age losing our self-respect and blaming it on the 'fairer sex,' which would show even less self-respect being that we allowed others to lose respect for us.
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Re: Southern culture
Sep 14, 2022, 5:28 AM
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I still say it. Yea and no was not considered to be proper lingo in my household. Can’t imagine saying yea or yep to my mom.
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Re: Southern culture
Sep 14, 2022, 6:13 AM
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I have been addressed as “young man” by wet behind the ears whippersnappers. My response is generally something like this: I excuse me, I am not a young man. You somehow think that is a compliment. It is not. I do not long for youth. I am so much wiser than I was as a young man. I know things because I have lived a long time that you can not fathom and I am content to be where I am. You may call me mister or sir but please do not call me young man.
This is generally met with a muffled apology or silence but I never get addressed insolently again. (Not that I really care but it’s fun messing with kids.)
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Seems like quite the lecture you give them.***
Sep 14, 2022, 7:18 AM
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Re: you sound really fun to be around***
Sep 14, 2022, 9:04 AM
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Well, if you’re condescending and clueless, I might be your best choice as a dinner companion.
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Oculus Spirit [93787]
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It's the unjustified familarity which insults.
Sep 14, 2022, 8:25 AM
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I was never allowed to be familiar with my elders due to being so was a gesture of being their equal and deserving of similar respect. I spoke to elders in public only when first addressed by them and showed proper respect because I had nice teeth and wanted to keep them.
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My decades-old habit may surprise some, but
Sep 14, 2022, 7:11 AM
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even now at the age of 75, I typically address business clientele with a Mr., Mrs. Or Miss and a Yes Sir or Yes Ma'am.
Of course, many times with repeated transactions the formality becomes more relaxed. However, I maintain a view that I am deeply appreciative of their interest and business. I believe the formality evidences to them that sense of gratitude. I've had younger folks express surprise to which I have expressed my honor to them for their consideration, and to a person they have thanked me for such.
My own grandchildren were raised in the north where those types of formalities are typically not practiced; however, in my presence they do...because my son and his wife sternly warned the kids to tread lightly around their Paw Paw when it comes to manners (lol.) As an aside, on visits to the north, even the kids' maternal relatives practice the same manners, deferring to my views.
Years ago, military wags related how much easier recruits from the South adapted to military discipline due to their culture, something I witnessed as an Army officer. (Caveat: I served with many outstanding people born and raised in the North.)
Strange habits, I suppose, in different areas of our country, though, admittedly, I prefer those I learned here in the good, ole South.
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i'm 49 and i stil yes yes sir and yes maam to the 16 year
Sep 14, 2022, 7:31 AM
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olds working the dive through .
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Per Bocephus: We say Grace, and we say Ma'am, if you ain't
Sep 14, 2022, 7:46 AM
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into that, we don't give a d.amn.
A Country Boy Can Survive.
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I call most everyone Ma'am and Sir no matter their age***
Sep 14, 2022, 8:09 AM
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Re: Southern culture
Sep 14, 2022, 9:13 AM
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Saying yes ma'm to an older lady should be a response by every man of good upbringing not just a Southern thing. The problem today is good upbringing largely went down the drain years ago.
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